Life and leadership lessons of emerging global change-makers

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung

Our own best friend

How are you? I hope you’re incredibly well. This post has again been inspired by the latest Creating Affluence insights email and by the powerful and humbling video of a young teenager sharing the distinction of how her limiting beliefs created a painful life for herself and her story of overcoming it. ENJOY 🙂

The story below is a touching account of what many people are actually feeling inside beneath all the tough outer layers built to protect us from pain but sadly creating more.

Please Hear What I’m Not Saying – by Charles C. Finn

Please don’t be fooled by me. Don’t be fooled by the face I wear, for I wear a mask. I wear a thousand masks, masks that I’m afraid to take off and none of them are me. Pretending is an art that is second nature to me, but don’t be fooled, for God’s sake don’t be fooled.

I give you the impression I’m secure and that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without, that confidence is my name, coolness my game, that water is calm and I’m in command and that I need no one, but don’t believe me, please don’t believe me.

My surface may be smooth, but my surface is a mask—my every varying and ever concealing mask. Beneath it dwells the real confusion, fear and aloneness. Beneath lies my smugness, my complacently, but I hide this—I don’t want anyone to know it.

I panic at the thought of my weakness and fear being exposed. That’s why I frantically created a mask to hide behind— nonchalant sophisticated facades to help me pretend— to shield me from the glance that knows— but such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only salvation and I know it. That is if it’s followed by acceptance. If it’s followed by love, it’s the only thing that can liberate me from myself, from my own self built prison walls and from the barriers that I so painstakingly erect. It’s the only thing that will assure me of what I cannot assure myself, that I’m really worth while, but I don’t tell you this, I don’t dare—I’m afraid to.

I’m afraid that your glance will not be followed by acceptance and love. I’m afraid you’ll think less of me and you’ll laugh and your laugh will kill me. I’m afraid that deep down, I’m nothing and that I’m just no good and that you’ll see this and reject me.

So I play my game; my desperate pretending; with the facade of assurance without and a trembling child within. And so begins the parade of masks, the glittering, but empty parade of masks and my life becomes a front. I idle chatter to you in suave tones of surface talk. I tell you everything that’s really nothing and nothing of what’s everything and what’s crying within me.

So when I’m through going through my routine, do not be fooled by what I’m saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I’m not saying—what I’d like to be able to say, but for survival I need to say, but what I can’t say.

I dislike hiding, honestly, I dislike the superficial game I’m playing, the superficial phony game. I’d really like to be genuine, spontaneous and me, but you’ve got to help me, you’ve got to hold out your hand, even when it’s the last thing I seem to want or need.

You can help wipe away from my eyes—the blank stare of grieving dead. You can help call me into aliveness each time you’re kind, gentle and encouraging. Each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings, very small wings, very feeble wings, but wings.

If you choose to, please choose to. You can help break down the wall behind which I tremble. You can encourage me to remove my mask. You can help release me from my shadowed world of panic and uncertainty. From my lonely prison.

So do not pass me by— please don’t pass me by. It will not be easy for you. A lone conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls. The nearer you approach me, the blinder I may strike back.

It’s irrational, but despite what books say about man, I am irrational, I fight against the very things that I cry out for, but I am told love is stronger than strong walls. In this lies my hope, my only hope, please help beat down those walls with firm hands, but with gentle hands—for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder? I am someone you know very well. For I am every man you meet and I am every women you meet.

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With much love, warmth and enthusiasm,

Adam

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“Some men see things as they are and say ‘why?’ I dream of things that never were and say ‘why not?'” – Edward Kennedy

I hope you’re feeling wonderfully well as you read this. As always this post has been inspired by the latest Affluence Insights Email about feeling a greater sense of purpose and the impact that has in our lives.

This time I felt I’d keep is short and sweet. Here is the latest draft of my purpose statement. I read the whole thing when I wake up and before I go to sleep at night. The short first paragraph serves as a concise version which I may read and connect with several times throughout the day.  It still needs a little polishing, but I hope it inspires you. Enjoy!

My Purpose Statement

TODAY I PASSIONATELY DEDICATE MY LIFE TO COMING ALIVE; TO SEEING AND REVEALING LIFE AND TENACIOUSLY PURSUING THE POTENTIAL IN MYSELF AND OTHERS. I DEVOTEDLY CONTRIBUTE, DROP BY DROP, TO CREATE A MORE COMPASSIONATE, PURPOSEFUL, FREE, AFFLUENT AND SYNERGISTIC STATE OF HUMANITY.

Today it is my duty, purpose and unquestionable compulsion to passionately and tenaciously pioneer human triumph – to be driven by my passion to see others recognise, pursue and achieve their potential; to feel deeply touched to witness others come alive, believe in themselves, dream, feel passion, power, certainty and freedom; to feel moved to see others in flow, expressing their unique talents affluently and touching others as they radiantly exude life; to feel moved to witness others recognise truth and reality in themselves through deep humility and vulnerability.

With an open, playful, explorative, reflective, still, receptive, and creative awareness I curiously seek to create my vision internally with a sense of expansive possibility and freedom. I reverentially recognise and am deeply moved by the loving and conspiring intelligence of life connection I am with everything around me and feel expectantly affluent, carrying an unshakeable sense of knowing that I am and will attract situations, circumstances, ideas, people and interactions to serve me in my pursuit of becoming a more consciously aware and affluent servant leader of my human family.

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I look forward to connecting with you again soon.

Adam

“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” – Abraham Maslow

I hope you’re in a wonderful state as you read this blog post – feeling happy, open, curious and passionate. It once again has been inspired by the latest of the Creating Affluence Insight Emails.

How did you feel and what thoughts sparked off in your mind when you read that question? – ‘How fascinated about yourself are you?’

It is a question we may associate with arrogance and an egoic self-obsession of someone who’s predominately interested in themselves whilst expressing little care and attention for others.

Well, I’m here to tell you that being fascinated about yourself, for the right reasons of course, is the key to living an affluent, free, meaningful and rich (in the entirety of the word) life.

Feeling the pain of self-incarceration

Some time ago I was just finishing an intense meeting with some close friends and work colleagues when inside I could feel an immense, overwhelming wall of pain and sadness hurtling towards me. I could feel its imminence and that in any moment I would break down. When it hit me I just began to cry uncontrollably as I made what was to be the second greatest distinction of my entire life.

I had known for some time that like many people my overall default emotional state for years had actually been one of dis-ease, of subtle negativity and self-doubt. This was something I had lived with unconsciously for years particularly after enduring the crushing experience of my girlfriend’s suicide a decade before-hand. I felt daily that negativity and dis-ease but wasn’t actually aware I was living in that way. On that occasion after the meeting with my colleagues what hit me was the distinction of what had been happening inside me.

I genuinely made, on a deep, internalised and emotional level (beyond just intellectual understanding) the distinction that this negativity and dis-ease wasn’t me, that is was caused by something other than me – by my egoic conditioned programs. For years that behaviour had caused chaos in my life and relationships. My grief in that moment was the recognition that my ego had for almost a decade been torturing me, oppressing me and causing me pain. It was like making the shattering distinction that your behaviours have actually been destructive and strangling to someone that you’d wholeheartedly believed for years you loved and care for. I felt a deep sense of sorrow, of dis-belief, of grief – feeling responsible for having massively oppressed the growth of an innocent being…. a little like having incarcerated a beautiful majestic wild eagle from birth, having tortured it and kept it locked up far from its true purpose and potential whilst ignorantly believing I was doing the right thing… The greatest and most humble bitter pill I’ve ever had to swallow.

The taste of freedom

What followed was the most astounding and liberating feeling of freedom I’ve ever felt in my life! I truly felt free for the first time… free from what? Free from my egoic conditioned programs!

So, what does fascination have to do with all this? There is so much out in the world to be fascinated about – nature, science, philosophy, travel, space, politics, media, films, technology… But what we fail to appreciate is that inside us resides an immense myriad maze of conditioned programs which if left unobserved, if they are not brought out into the light of our consciousness will actually imprison us and deceptively lead us to believe we are happy and free, yet sadly and ironically we’re far from it. It is when we become fascinated to explore what we don’t even know about ourselves can we ever begin to glimpse what freedom actually tastes like at a level we can’t even comprehend. It is through an intense fascination about our mental and emotional internal world do we become more aware. As we become increasingly more aware we begin to step out of the mind and become more free to create our future untainted by our past – we stop believing we are our programmatic behaviours and become more human, more engaged, more switched on, more free and more affluent.

THE KEY TO OUR HAPPINESS AND FREEDOM IS TO BE DEDICATED AND COMMITTED TO CONSTANTLY RAISING OUR LEVEL OF AWARENESS!

If you’d like any help, guidance and support in developing your awareness do get in touch.

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With much love, warmth and enthusiasm,

Adam

“Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength and soul can be a true master. For this reason mastery demands all of a person.” – Albert Einstein

This blog post today has been inspired by the Creating Affluence Insights emails and the mastery of new world record holder, Felix Baumgartner who jumped from the edge of space and broke the speed of sound in freefall.

1 – Become still and tap into your intuition

Science and religion have had their conflicts over the years. Several hundred years ago, if you proclaimed something bold that contradicted mainstream understanding, you’d likely find yourself in prison or with a noose around your neck.

Thankfully they are starting to see eye-to-eye. Quantum physics and spirituality are now beginning to agree with each other.

Religion for thousands of years has spoken of a higher intelligence, a higher being that is ‘beyond this world’. Spirituality has increasingly expressed that beyond what we see physically we are all connected on some level, and that in that connection resides an untapped source of knowledge and power. The latest in quantum physics tells us that everything is actually just energy, and that two particles on the opposite sides of the world can influence each other instantaneously.

However you want to look at it, you just simply can’t argue that when you become still, when you quieten the mind your performance is significantly increased. Many use meditative practices to help themselves achieve peak states of calm, joy, connection and flow. The optimal is being able to achieve this state in the heat of the moment when there is a lot going on around you – to achieve that state of flow!

The mind itself is just a computer to help us coordinate, sequence and analyse our world. But with the heart, through what I would preferably describe as ‘feeling intelligence’ we can evoke deep feelings of love, compassion, connection, peace, joy and purpose. As we still the mind and consciously engage the heart the human spirit gracefully emerges revealing some of the qualities people believe are just reserved for the ‘genius’ amongst us.

Have you ever been struggling to solve a problem or come up with an idea and then you find that it hits you randomly when you least expect it – washing the dishes, or in the shower? Have you ever heard of writers or musicians who’ve described how “it was as if something was flowing through me”? Internal stillness helps us to go beyond the confines of the cognitive mind and evokes our intuition. Sometimes extreme situations are enough to shock us out of the limits of our egoic mind, too. That is why in extreme survival situations you hear of countless stories: such as Shackleton’s polar expedition rescue being guided, being supported by a ‘third man’.

We could wonderfully define it all with the great quote of the Scottish climber W.H. Murray:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.” – W.H. Murray

2 – A wildly compelling vision

Having a compelling vision goes way beyond just having a vision board on the back of your cupboard door that you occasionally glance at. As we have heard from the legendary Gandhi:  “Be the change you want to see in the world”. A powerful vision is something you actually feel deeply, that you become, and then begin to see your entire world around you in a way that directly relates to that vision. Many people’s visions, which they may believe are intense, deeply emotionally evoking and clear, are actually egoic and vague. In my experience of mentoring hundreds of people on this very topic and through my own personal experiences, that just doesn’t crack it. You have to get to a place where, when you close your eyes you literally transport yourself to that particular vision which encompasses every aspect of what you want to create into what is, essentially, one film scene in which you are the main protagonist. You must be able to see, touch, taste and smell every detail.

Have you seen the film Cool Runners about the first ever Jamaican bobsleigh team? Do you remember the scene when they are all sitting in the bath tub and simulating running the course? Visualisation is a technique that many Olympic athletes use because the mind doesn’t actually know the difference between a real experience or one you visualised. Visualisation tricks the subconscious mind into believing you know what you’re doing. Once you have the sub-conscious mind on your side, then you have that ‘beyond-mind’ intelligence where your intuition comes to aid you as, I’ve described above.

Keep your eyes peeled for future posts on developing vision or, if you want any suggestions on how to develop your vision, feel free to get in touch.

3 – Being mentored and becoming a mentor

If you want to become a master at what you do, learn from those who have already been there, and then help others learn it too. To be the best you can be in your own field, to make the greatest impact possible, you just simply can’t do it without being a great people person, a great, legitimate moral and inspiring leader to others. Ironically, to really bring to the world what you have to offer, the critical factor isn’t your depth of knowledge of that area of expertise but your ability to lead, enable and inspire others.

Richard Branson, the world-class entrepreneur claimed that he didn’t know the difference between gross profit and net profit until he was in his 50’s, by which time he had already made over a billion pounds. So he didn’t have some basic ‘business’ knowledge, yet had built hundreds of successful businesses. He always proclaims that the most critical factor for his success is his people skills, about really caring for people, helping bring them together and unleashing their passions and skills.

Have you ever really helped someone else make a great breakthrough in their own life? How grateful and appreciate were they afterwards? Most people just can’t do enough to help you once you’ve really helped them. Once you’ve genuinely and legitimately cared for others, and about them and their lives, only then will they then naturally want to help you without feeling manipulated or coerced with fear. Nothing can be achieved in life that is truly sustainable and significant, and which stand the test of time, the uncertainty of tested relationships, and the difficulties of hardship and economic storms, without strong, loyal, trust-filled, committed relationships.

Do you want to become a master in your field? Then become a master of yourself and become a master at developing people and building relationships. Being mentored and becoming a mentor is the key to making that happen!

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If you’d like to find out more then get in touch. I’d love to hear from you.

Adam

Hey Everyone 🙂

Firstly, if you’ve arrived here, welcome and thank you for expressing interest in learning more about becoming affluent…

I’m just putting the finishing touches in place behind the scenes to start getting this website flowing and the accompanying regular emails.

If you would like to receive regular email insights into creating affluence in all areas of your life please sign-up on the right here –> 🙂

Finally, when I say affluence, I mean affluence in the true context of the word – not just financial wealth. Affluence means flow, it means living our lives in a state of flow, of effortless ease, of creativity, of resourcefulness, of mental and emotional wealth, of our ability to make things happen.

Building deep meaningful relationships and having the help and support of those loving and upbuilding souls is crucial. So mentorship plays a huge role here. My mentor has literally helped to transform my life in ways I couldn’t have even comprehended.

I am continuing the flow of that knowledge and wisdom through my service in the lives of others as a mentor now myself, of which this blog is a small but meaningful part.

With much love and enthusiasm 🙂

Adam Wallis

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